New Year, New You!
January 21, 2019
ACPEN presenter, Joy Principe, kicks off 2019 by helping us better manage our money and our relationships! We love having Joy in studio. She brings her expertise and energy to every presentation, and it results in a truly engaging CPE experience. Be sure to check back in the summer for new content from Joy! Now, check out Joy’s blog below for tips for you (and your clients) on successfully navigating the potential mine field where money meets relationships.
Joy’s ACPEN Courses
Navigating The Money & Relationship Dilemma
“Money Dilemmas” can sometimes create awkwardness and discomfort in relationships. In my work as a Success Coach and CPA, I hear all kinds of situations that will either create walls between people or create opportunities to thrive financially. After all, we all have patterns and beliefs around money. And, when our set of money beliefs and patterns mingle with another person’s, there is potential for conflict and difficulty. However, relationships also offer the opportunity to try on new money beliefs and grow into our prosperity consciousness. Here are a few tips for navigating money and relationships in a healthy, positive way.
1. Building Trust:
We need to feel safe, encouraged and empowered in order to create an environment where abundance thrives. Relationships can offer an opportunity to create safety around the topic of money and receive encouragement.
One simple, yet powerful way to build your trust in money through relationship is to share your “money secrets” with another. What do I mean? Secrets such as the amount of debt you have and the feelings of possible shame and overwhelm that may go along with it. Maybe it’s your overspending habit or denial about the dreaded ‘bill pile”. Come clean with one of these money secrets and watch your world transform. A friend, spouse, relative or your Coach will do. Choose someone who you know will be supportive and be clear as you make the request – “I’d like you to just listen, with no judgment or advice”. Feel yourself lose about 10 lbs of heaviness, when you share this secret with someone who will meet it with a warm heart and encouragement. We all need to feel forgiven about one money secret or money mistake. Then, offer to be that person in return.
2. Establishing Boundaries:
Relationships give us an opportunity to learn how to say “yes” with enthusiasm or “no” with kindness. Anytime that a friend or loved one makes an invitation or proposal involving money, you have this opportunity to create a healthy boundary. Make it a practice to be clear about money, even when it is uncomfortable.
For example, when going out with colleagues, establish at the beginning of the evening how the bill will be handled. If you are invited to something that is outside of your comfortable price range, speak your truth without shame or embarrassment, and stand in pride for managing your finances responsibly. If someone asks to borrow money, be very clear about your decision and its potential repercussions. The key to boundaries is clarity, and clarity that you create in your relationships with other people is then mirrored in the clarity you make in all your financial decisions.
3. Expanding Possibilities:
Sometimes our relationships with people have expectations attached to them. When we realize that this person can’t come through in the way we expected, the great news is that this forces our hand to look for possibilities in other ways. Money is a great training ground for expanding possibilities that spills over into your whole life. Try this new belief on for size: “There are literally hundreds of portals of possibility for money to flow to me.” Close your eyes and image this…hundreds of ways for this money desire to find you.
With this new belief, that one person who just said ‘No,I can’t help,” or “No, I don’t have the money to chip in for that,” or “No, I’m not interested in your service” — suddenly it’s no big deal because you’re not thinking …”OMG, you were my only hope!” Not anymore… now you have a new belief that you are nurturing… the portals of possibility belief. This allows you to smile and move on to the next place. Creating abundance is the practice of seeing new possibilities, and our relationships and interactions with others can help us do that.
4. Sharing a Vision:
Oftentimes we have very different values and desires when it comes to money in our significant relationship. One quick way to balance this out is to find at least one money goal that you share and can get excited about together. It builds a bond between you and even though you may disagree about other money values, you’ll have this one common goal that can feel amazing as you complete it together. This is great practice for getting excited about money goals in general. Our experiences of abundance are directly related to our excitement and enthusiasm, so getting excited about a financial goal with another person can increase your experiences of getting excited about your own personal goals.
Choose one experiment each week from these tips and watch your abundance grow this month! Before long, you’ll be known in your circles as the person with “That Money Savvy” that everyone admires and respects.
Joy Principe, is a CPA and a Success & Wellbeing Coach who specializes in the concepts of abundance, thriving & joyful living.
She brings a diverse background to her work. She has been an entrepreneur and CPA business owner for 25 years, and she is also trained as a Certified Rubenfeld Synergist, a Transformative Coach and yoga teacher. She has been leading groups for over 10 years with her rare blend of analytical and creative qualities that inspire people to their personal greatness in a very practical and playful way. Her group programs and one-on-one sessions are focused on leading businesses and individuals to meaningful and sustainable success and happiness. Simply put, she guides people in creating their ideal lifestyle.
Learn more about her philosophy of success at her website: www.circleoflifepersonalgrowth.com .
She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
Happy Thanksgiving From ACPEN’s Interns
November 22, 2018
Happy Thanksgiving from ACPEN’s Interns
Some of the interns are put to work prepping for the feast…
While others share what they are thankful for…
While the smart ones look forward towards Christmas!!!
The Calm Before the Storm
November 15, 2018
Get to the next signature course before anyone else. It’s much more peaceful before the arguing between the accountants and IRS agents kicks off. So get to the ACPEN Signature: 2018 Annual Tax Update early! And while you’re there check out our other ACPEN Signature Courses!
Five Things Jerry Seinfeld Teaches Us About The Art Of Great Conversation
October 26, 2018
Submitted by ACPEN presenter Dr. Bruce Weinstein, The Ethics Guy.
Thank you, Netflix, for releasing all at once the latest season of Jerry Seinfeld’s essential series, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee. The show pulls off the unusual feat of appealing to people who love automobiles, espresso, comedy or any combination of these.
Most of all, however, Jerry Seinfeld demonstrates the art of great conversation. Specifically, he does the following five things in the show that anyone interested in becoming a better leader would do well to heed.
A conversation is like a tennis game. In tennis, you hit the ball to your opponent, she or he then lobs it to you, and back and forth you go. In a conversation, you ask a question or make an observation, and then you stop and listen.
That’s how a conversation is supposed to go but too often does not. For many people (otherwise known as yakkers or crashing bores), the conversational metaphor is not a tennis game but a batting cage. They hurl ball after ball at you. You try to bat one back, but whether you do or not doesn’t matter, because the yakker has already prepared another ball to shoot at you.
Jerry Seinfeld uses the tennis metaphor. You rarely get the sense that when a guest on the show is speaking, Jerry is waiting for the next thing to say.
Converse like Jerry. Listen.
“She studied the lines in my face,” sings Bob Dylan in his breakup song, “Tangled Up in Blue.” Like that woman, Jerry Seinfeld studies the faces of every guest he has on the show. Unlike that woman, he’s not in the throes of a troubled relationship. No, Jerry studies faces because it’s life’s details that fascinate him and form the basis of all of his comedy.
I’ve never had the pleasure of speaking with Jerry one on one, and I’ll admit that I’d be a bit self-conscious. But none of the guests on the show appear to be bothered by Jerry’s attention to their faces. That’s because each guest is both a friend of Jerry’s and an observer of life too. It’s not a stretch to say that Jerry Seinfeld and all of his comedian friends are successful because of their attention to detail.
Converse like Jerry. Look.
One of the intoxicating pleasures of Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee is the good-natured humor and ready laughs that permeate every episode. The lightness and airiness of the conversations make whatever professional or personal problem you’re dealing a little easier to bear. Yes, it’s that good. (That’s also a characteristic Larry David’s interactions with his real-life pals on Curb Your Enthusiasm, but a proper analysis of that marvelous show would require a separate column.)
I once remarked to a friend that Jerry’s laughter on Comedians sometimes feels forced. He will howl at something his guest says that hardly rates a 4, let alone a 9, on the Richter scale of comedy. “But that’s how friendships are,” my buddy replied. “Friends laugh at things others wouldn’t find amusing at all.” He was right.
We’ve all had conversations with people who regard their every utterance with deep reverence. I fear that I’m like that on occasion, and the show reminds me of the dangers of being this way.
Converse like Jerry. Laugh (some of the time).
There is no more touching example of how Jerry Seinfeld treats his guests with respect than the final episode of this season. Jerry Lewis is his guest, and the love and admiration Seinfeld has for the true king of comedy is evident in every moment of its twenty minutes.
Lewis appears fragile, and the episode must have been filmed not too long before he died. That makes it even more touching than it would have been already, and your eyes will be welling with tears by the end.
Seinfeld evinces the same respect with other legends of comedy who have been on the show: Don Rickles, Carl Reiner and Mel Brooks and among them. One can only imagine how amazing it would have been to see Jerry with Phyllis Diller, Joan Rivers, George Carlin or Richard Pryor.
Converse like Jerry. Show respect.
Jerry Exudes Confidence
As far as conversation partners go, a milquetoast is almost as bad as a cocky, arrogant fill-in-the-blank. Jerry Seinfeld is no milquetoast. He makes no bones about his unmatched success in both comedy and television. On a couple of occasions that level of confidence does become boastful, but when I observe that, I ask myself, “Who wouldn’t be guilty of braggadocio from time to time if they had Jerry’s level of achievement?”
Even Bruce Springsteen, whose leadership style I wrote about in a previous column, admits to hubris. As he told Scott Pelley on 60 Minutes:
I got as big an ego and enjoy the attention. My son has a word, he calls it ‘Attention Whore.’ But you have to be one of those or else why would you be up in front of thousands of people….”
Overall, Seinfeld’s degree of self-regard is absolutely right for the spirited conversations he has with his friends and colleagues.
Converse like Jerry. Believe in yourself.
The Bottom Line
On Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee, Jerry Seinfeld makes you feel as though you’re right in that car with him and his esteemed guest. It’s not just because the show strategically uses GoPro cameras inside the vehicle. Seinfeld is a gifted conversationalist who shows what talk can be like when it’s done right: enlightening, engaging and just plain fun.
If you fancy yourself a leader, or simply want to be a better friend or colleague to someone, watch the show and follow suit.
Behind The Scenes ACPEN Signature: Accounting and Auditing Update
October 22, 2018
ACPEN Signature: 2018 Accounting and Auditing Update took place this week, and it was another successful Signature course. Take a look at some of the behind the scenes pictures of the good times we had. And–if you missed it, be sure to check out the on-screen action at the next live webcast replay.
Chick-fil-a Chicken Minis: Breakfast of Champions
Tina making our speakers look their best!
Before the show starts there’s a lot of work to do, but apparently it isn’t in the control room. Where’d everybody go?
Margie Reinhart prepping for her session.
If the audio for this course sounds better than normal its because Charlie La Costa is an audio ninja.
Again, if you missed the live course, you can catch a live webcast replay! There are lots of replay dates before year end, so if you’re trying to get all of your CPE by year end, you’re in luck. And don’t forget that we offer discounted group pricing for all of our ACPEN courses (including the 2018 ACPEN Signature: Accounting & Auditing Update)! If your firm would like information on Group Registration, just email Jessica.Vieira@acpen.com for pricing and info!
New Ways to Save!
October 11, 2018
ACPEN is happy to announce two new ways to reward our Customers! Visit the ACPEN Catalog and start saving!
Earn 1 reward point for every $1 you spend. Once you’ve accumulated 100 points, redeem your reward. 100reward points = $15.00 off of your next purchase!
Refer a friend to ACPEN and if they register for a course you both get rewarded. 25% discount for them and 100 reward points for you! Learn more about both of these rewards by logging into your ACPEN account. From your “My Account” page, you will be able to access your reward points and have the opportunity to refer your friends and co-workers! If you are among the first 25 ACPEN Customers to successfully refer a friend or colleague, there will be a special bonus coming your way!
Lead Like Springsteen: Five Key Things The Boss Does That You Should, Too
September 27, 2018
Submitted by ACPEN presenter Dr. Bruce Weinstein, The Ethics Guy.
You don’t have to be lucky enough to have a ticket to see the sold-out show, “Springsteen on Broadway,” to be the kind of leader Bruce is. But I was there last night, and I saw him do five things consistently that have a lot to do with the show’s, and Bruce’s, unmatched success.
If you follow Bruce’s lead, you will be a rock star in your own right.
Look At People When You Talk With Them
One of the most common observations about a Springsteen concert is: “I felt like he was talking right to me.” How can someone playing to thousands of people make each person feel so special?
It starts with how Bruce treats the audience: he looks directly at people. Unless you’re in the bleachers at Dodger Stadium, if you’re anywhere within Bruce’s eyesight, you feel he’s looking right at you, because he probably is, at least some of the time.
Looking directly into someone’s eyes the entire time you’re speaking with them is creepy. But if you’re constantly looking at everything but the person in front of you, you come across as distant, aloof and not interested in your interlocutor.
Be like Bruce. Connect with each person you speak with.
Speak, Then Listen
How many times have you felt as though you were on the receiving end of someone’s monologue during a conversation on the phone or in person? If only that person was as impressed with you as they are with themselves.
In Springsteen on Broadway, Bruce stops from time to time to gauge his effect on the audience. He speaks, stops, gets a sense of how what he just said has landed and then continues based on the cues he’s gotten from the audience.
There’s a constant feedback loop during the show, and that’s how every good conversation proceeds: back and forth, ebb and flow, speaking and listening. How long do you think Monologue Marlon or Self-Absorbed Sally would have lasted fronting a rock band? Not as long as Bruce has.
Be like Bruce. Shut yer yap once in a while.
Acknowledge Who Helped You Get There
About three-quarters of the way into the solo show, Bruce singles out everyone in the E Street Band and gives special attention to Patti Scialfa, who is both a member of the band and Bruce’s wife.
This is humility in action. Bruce may write the music and lyrics to his songs and command the stage from beginning to end, but without the contributions of Steve Van Zandt, Garry Tallent, Roy Bittan, Max Weinberg, Scialfa, Nils Lofgren, and the late Danny Federici and Clarence Clemons, as well as the distinguished musicians who preceded them, Bruce admits that he wouldn’t have gotten to where he is today.
Which are your team members more likely to think to themselves or say to you: “Stop thanking me so much” or “I really appreciate how grateful you always are about what I do”?
Be like Bruce. Give credit where credit is due.
Do What You Do Best
Could there be any expression more trite than this? No. Could there be any expression that is more likely to be the basis of your success than this? Absolutely not.
Imagine Bruce as an opera singer, ballet dancer, hockey player or financial analyst. It’s impossible to envision him in any of these roles without laughing out loud. But no one laughed last night when he sauntered onto the stage of the Walter Kerr theater to play “Growing Up” on an acoustic guitar and tell stories about his family.
Bruce Springsteen wasn’t born to run. He was born to touch the hearts and souls of people through the gifts of songwriting and performing that he was given and then developed.
Be like Bruce. Find out what you were put on earth to do, and if it’s not what you’re doing now, figure out how to get to the promised land. I know this is easier said than done, but just think of what the world would have missed if Bruce had spent his whole life as a third-tier dancer in a ballet company near Freehold, New Jersey.
Know When To Exit
Springsteen on Broadway is a two-hour show without an intermission. Although Bruce’s rock concerts have stretched beyond four hours, which is great for a stadium event, his New York show is just the right length. It’s long enough to be a deep dive into his life, but you don’t find yourself saying, “When the heck is this dadgummed thing going to end?” You leave wanting more.
Isn’t that how you’d like others to regard their time with you?
Whether you’re giving a talk, having an in-person/phone/Skype conversation or attending a social gathering, you should stick around just long enough to be a welcome presence.
We all know people who don’t know when to end a phone call. “Oh, and one more thing,” they add, while you catch up on your online Scrabble game and pretend to listen to their logorrhea.
Be like Bruce. Know when it’s time to go.
There. I said all I needed to say, so it’s time for me to go, too. Thank you for reading this.
Jill Schiefelbein Comes to Town
September 19, 2018
One of our favorite presenters was in studio recently to record some interesting and relevant new content for ACPEN viewers. Jill Schiefelbein is always great to work with and brings a fun and carefree attitude to creating courses.
But, Jill is also a social media ninja! Check out some of her fun posts on her Instagram @dynamicjill.
Be sure to check out Jill’s social media courses, Social Media and Your Business and Social Media 101: Know the Essentials for Your Business, to learn to master social media like she does.
Also check out all of her new courses.
Effective Virtual Teams and Virtual Meetings
Self-Promotion for Career Advancement: Communicating Your Strengths
Dynamic Communication: Strategies for Achieving Buy-In
Setting up Programs for Innovation: A Six Step Process
Navigating Difficult Conversations
A little bit more about Jill:
Jill Schiefelbein, The Dynamic Communicator(R), thrives at the intersection of communication, education, and technology. From analyzing classified documents obtained from military raids of terrorist camps to assess jihad messaging strategies, to teaching business communication for 11 years at the largest university in the country, to starting and managing an online education office serving 60,000+ students, to her own award-winning entrepreneurial ventures, Jill successfully creates and executes communication strategies help people and companies solve problems, retain and develop consumers, and enhance the bottom line.
Jill is co-author of the textbook Business and Professional Communication in the Global Workplace, has a widely viewed presence on YouTube, and is an official video partner and contributing writer for Entrepreneur(R). Her next book, Dynamic Communication: Strategies to Grow, Manage, and Lead Your Business, will hit bookstores in May 2017. Learn more at http://thedynamiccommunicator.com and follow Jill on Twitter @dyanmicjill.
Behind The Scenes ACPEN Signature: Business Fraud
September 14, 2018
Our September Signature Course, Business Fraud Update: Use of Technology in Fraud Investigations, was an action-packed webcast filled with stories of lies, deceptions, and FRAUD! It also featured our largest panel for a Signature Course this year, with NINE accounting and technology experts. This gives you, the viewer, many different perspectives on a fraud investigation, but it also presented many production challenges for our production crew. So, we invite you to take a look at the “Behind The Scenes” fun. And–if you missed it, be sure to check out the on-screen action at the next live webcast replay.
Our welcome sign, jammed full of our presenters names. (We’re gonna need a bigger boat. Or board.)
The control room, where the magic happens.
Shooting over panelist shoulders gives you a nice view of the back of panelists heads.
Seating and mic chart keeps everyone straight on who goes where.
Our director, Larry, taking notes to keep things organized.
It was a hectic day for sure, but it was totally worth it! This is one of the most dynamic and engaging CPE opportunities out there. You won’t be disappointed!
Be sure to check out this course and other upcoming courses at the ACPEN Catalog
ACPEN Interns Go Back to School
August 21, 2018
ACPEN’s summer intern program comes to an end as our dedicated interns interns return to their educations. We at ACPEN thank these hard workers for their tireless efforts this summer, helping us crank out the quality CPE that you know and love, like “Candy Estate Planning: How to Ensure Your Brother Doesn’t Get Your Stash” and “Games For CPAs: How Fortnight Can Help You Deal With Competition”. As these kids get back to learning, we invite you to get back to your own education at the ACPEN Catalog.
Obviously some people are happier about back to school than others